Vancouver, BC

Over President’s Day weekend, Daniel and I went to Vancouver, BC for our friend’s 30th Birthday!

This simple weekend trip turned into a time for me to reflect on some of the major things I need to work on this Lent and throughout the year.

As soon as I started packing, last minute of course, I realized I had no concept of what to expect for the trip. I had definitely Pinterested 1000 things to do in Vancouver and checked out a few of my favorite local travel blogs so I felt like I knew what I wanted explore while I was there.

Lesson 1: You can’t plan for everything especially when you’re not traveling alone.

I’ve traveled so much for work and I’ve always been able to eat at my favorite restaurants and explore my favorite local spots and spend way to much time taking in a view. In a way I missed that, but I quickly realized how lucky I am to have Daniel and the friend group and to be able to do things together.

Plus they picked the best restaurants and activities!

Eggs Benedict with Canadian Bacon
Tubing at Cypress Mountain

Lesson 2: Dealing with challenges is so much easier with other people in your corner.

We got up early Sunday morning to sneak in some exploring time and we realized we had lost the keys somewhere on Saturday! Our friends helped us look all over and offered up tons of solutions that we hadn’t even thought of. Honestly, I was surprised at how composed I was and how great the day actually turned out.

I’m reading Pope Francis’ letter – The Joy of Love – and in referring to marriage he says, “Neither of the spouses will be alone in facing whatever challenges may come their way. Both are called to respond to God’s gift with commitment, creativity, perseverance and daily effort”

It reminded me how blessed we are to have such supportive friends and family around us not only for the good times, but for the difficult situations too.

We ended up driving back over the border to grab my spare key and my mom drove about an hour north to meet us, which saved a lot of time. On the way down we stopped for breakfast and we just had the best conversation.

Reading the specials board at Marlin’s Cafe

Lesson 3: Sometimes a little alone time goes a long way. 

I just had my performance review at work and my boss touched on something that I’ve noticed as a challenge. I’m an extrovert that works with a whole company of introverts.

I have to make an effort to see the way others experience the world and this trip it became blatantly clear. Sometimes it’s really overwhelming to be in a group of high energy people and instead of creating more energy it just feels draining. A quick walk outside was exactly what I needed. It was like hitting the reset button and suddenly I was eager to get back to the group and have more fun together.

Lynn Canyon Park
Totally worth carrying the tripod!
Lynn Canyon Suspension Bridge
This is why we wont be taking our own engagement photos 😉

 

 

VaLENTine’s Day!

This year we had a unique Valentine’s Day because it fell on the same day as Ash Wednesday for the first time since 1945!

On one hand, it took a lot of the pressure off. We didn’t have to plan a fancy dinner or anything extravagant. On the other hand, I was hangry. Usually on Ash Wednesday I go to work and put on a happy face and politely decline invitations to lunch and coffee. Then when I go home, I have a bowl of soup and crochet or do something alone.

It is WAY different when you’re fasting with a significant other. First off, I can’t thank Daniel enough for coming with me to mass (even when I was not a happy camper), taking me on a scenic flight and braving the grocery store at the end of the day when we were starving. Secondly, we’re buying soup ahead of time for Good Friday, duh!

The most notable thing from the day was that no one at work knew I was Catholic! The mass we went to before work at St. James was packed and there were several lunchtime masses in the area so it was surprising that I was the only person at work with ashes.

A few people asked me if I was comfortable talking about being Catholic and telling them what the ashes meant. Of course, I’m totally open about my faith and I would love to help others find their path if they are exploring religion.

When I told Daniel, he had a ton of great advice for how to respond to questions and how to share without being overwhelming. He also reminded me that we don’t live in a place where the majority of people are catholic or even religious. In the past we’ve managed to find communities of like minded people through school or our parish and I guess I didn’t realize how much I missed those connections.

This Lent, we’ll be trying out Alpha and I’m really hoping to meet some other couples that are like-minded in our ‘Engaged Encounter’ next month.